Before you say “I do”
On June - 8 - 2008 1 COMMENT
With post marriage woes all around us, its ever difficult to make that choice and say “I do”. For us, we need everything perfect and in todays world and with ever increasing graphs of divorces and cheating, it sure is kind of scary!
I am sure very few married people would like to recreate the entire scene again with the same person! So just before you say those two very important words, here are a few pointers:
- Compromise: To compromise is not really accept defeat. Its about understanding the rationale behind the other persons argument and remove what you cannot totally accept and decide on a issue. India and Pakistan compromised on a ceasefire, why can’t you!
- Money: Don’t we all need it? But what happens when we do get it? Who takes care of the spending and who wants to manage finance? Deciding on this early makes things a lot easy when you get your credit card bills!
- The Plan: Much like the interviewer asks you, ask yourself and each other where you would like to see each other after 3 years, 9 years down the life lane. This lets you set common goals and a kid at the wrong time makes both of unprepared.
- Discipline: How will the kids learn discipline? How do you plan to punish them? With a kitchen broom stick or planning to use a AK-47?!?
- Communication: One thing I usually tell my girlfriend is whenever we get mad at each other, we are not to ignore each others calls. This is important since it can solve a lot tensions with an outburst than have it all inside your mind building up a silent volcano to burst after 7 years of marriage!!!
Do you have any other tips in mind to share with our readers? Do chime in.





